I learned so many life lessons this week! They started out as challenging experiences, but I’m trying to look at them from a different perspective.
The “don’t let people bring you down” part of this quote was a big one for me. A few jabs were thrown my way this week and I was very surprised because this normally doesn’t happen. So once the shock wore off, a little anger began to creep in. I thought of things I should’ve said or done, and in a moment of pure indulgence, I thought it would’ve felt really good to just do this:
Here’s the thing: I can’t control or change what happened, but I can choose how I react and feel about the situations and people I encounter. There’s really no way I’m going to allow resentment or anger to linger in my life, so I had to get my head straight and work on helping my ego let these issues go. It’s still a work in progress, but I already know that these experiences are going to be some of the greatest teaching moments of my life!
Here are a few of the insights that have helped me move forward and just focus on letting things go:
1. Forgiveness. I learned a beautiful Hawaiian forgiveness ritual from Lia Bernardo called Ho’oponopono—and it’s not for the weak of heart. In a nutshell, you think about whatever (or whoever) is irking you and acknowledge that there’s a part of you that’s like that also. For example, if you’re annoyed at someone for being a hypocrite, then say: “To the part of me who is a hypocrite, I’m sorry, I love you, please forgive me. Thank you.” It’s not easy, but it’s definitely a great way to cleanse yourself of negative energy while forgiving yourself and the other person. Just keep repeating it to yourself until you feel your body relax. P.S. If you want to learn more about Ho’oponopono, deets are at the bottom of this post!
2. Be Kind To Yourself. As a recovering perfectionist, I’ve learned to stop being hard on myself when it comes to the obvious things (like typos and random mistakes). A good friend of mine pointed out, however, that I seemed to keep beating myself up whenever I failed to approach something with a positive attitude. Pretty ironic, right? I seem to have forgotten that I’m human and that there will be days when I lose my cool—and that’s okay. Really guys, it’s okay to have a big, dramatic moment every now and then to release the nega vibes from your mind and body. But once that’s done, dust yourself off and make sure you do what you can to make things better for everyone concerned.
3. Don’t Take Things Personally. You can’t control how people will react to something you do (or don’t), so there’s no point in dulling your sparkle in order to make other people comfortable. As long as you’re keeping your side of the street clean and are being as kind as you can, then I believe there’s nothing to worry about. Someone once told me that the way a person treats you reveals more about their character (or lack of it) than yours. I had to learn that I can’t stress out if someone is upset with me or throws shade my way because of the way I’m living my life. All I can do is try to see things from their perspective and just remember that everyone is going through their own challenges. Compassion can teach you many beautiful things, if you let it.
And if all else fails…
Taylor’s right, guys. Players are gonna play and haters are gonna hate. So dance it out, shake it off, and always remember to allow your beautiful light shine at its brightest. Just keep rocking it and own the fact that you’re fabulous! And hey, if you’re in need of some good vibes, know that you can always leave me a message here on the blog—I’ll be your cheerleader!
If you’re interested in learning more about the Ho’oponopono forgiveness technique, Lia’s actually holding another workshop this weekend! Do join—she’s hilarious, honest, and more importantly, it’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself. ♥